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| FIFO Mum: ... the mess of my house |
Being a parent is a challenging job let alone when one parent is away half the time! You really do know you are a mum when you are constantly covered in food and/or snot, your trackies count as going out clothes and when every time you look in the cupboard those damn clothes shrinking fairies have been at it again! When the cloths fairies strike I'm left remembering children's honesty and Mr 3 kindly saying "look at your big fat tummy Mum! baby use to live in your tummy house" with a big grin on his face. Children really tell it like it is!
Your a Mum have to change your ways of doing things, be very selfless, your values change actually your whole perspective on life changes. You never take free time for granted ever again! There are no hot meals or hot cups of coffee anymore, you become accustomed to drinking cold drinks, eating cold meals and it feels like all you do is kid stuff all day long. Then there is the talking and nagging its constant from the second the kids wake up in the morning to when they finally fall asleep at night and all you want is a few quiet hours by yourself to relax, have a hot drink ... or do you run straight to bed to sleep. Im too scared to go to sleep at the moment as the second I lie down bubs it awake and crying! I swear they know!
Then there is the guilt of wondering if you are making the correct decisions - the right ones for your kids and this pressure is magnified when you dont have your other half to bounce the ideas off. They only have a week at home to see the children and its hard to fully comprehend what it is like to be the one and only centre of attention for your children. Granted the weeks hubby is home ill have an angel baby sleeping all night or a really co-oprative preschooler. Then bam when they leave the whole house ends up with an illness and sleepless nights where you are zombie Mum. This is just the way it is no changing that its our way of life.
One thing I find incredibly frustrating as a parent is the 'it will get easier' line.... Ahh when?! My opinion is that maybe the sleepless nights get better but there are constant challenges that change every day. You go from that aha moment I've cracked the code straight into another challenge.
I know for certain I love my boys no matter what they do and I suppose you have to trust that you are doing the best job at being parents as you can give your way of life :).
x A
